Anthony Wade Ministries

by Anthony N. Wade

The late Dr. Ed Cole said that “A man doesn't own his marriage; he is only a steward of his wife's love.”

The first part of this quote is easy to understand. Yet, the last part requires some thought. What does it mean to be a steward of a wife's love? The first thing that comes to mind is to define what the word steward means. I found a number of definitions. The following will function for this writing.

STEWARD'S DEFINITION
A person who attends to the internal concerns of person's (wife) on board a vessel (marriage), as in overseeing the concerns of those in his care. Particularly his wife's love.

It is imperative for a man to attend to the love of his wife. This is found primarily in how he communicates with her. After all “Communication is the basis of life.” — Dr. Ed Cole

Being a good steward of a wife's love is a big task — yet achievable. The thing that is so rewarding about this is that the rewards are out of this world. The foundation of a wife's love should be on the front burner of every marital union. Why? Because it is the glue that will see you through. Being a superb steward of her love will take your marriage out of the ordinary, into the extra ordinary. AWM

by Anthony N. Wade

Every marital union with a man and a woman will have it's challenges. I personally believe that the husband in every marriage is suppose to be the leader spiritually, emotionally and financially. The foundation of this thought is found in the Bible. It is the catalyst for every successful union. However, every woman has her part to play in the success of her husband.

Years ago I learned that communication is the foundation of life.
The power of a thriving marital relationship will be in how well the two communicate. The woman has a very intricate part to play in her husbands life be it positive or negative. She will either communicate to the prince or the fool in her husband. In my opinion every man has the potential of a dual existense. If he leans toward God being in his life, the prince will emerge. If he leans toward walking in darkness, the fool will come to the surface. The activator to which one comes to light is the one the wife chooses to converse with.

I am reminded of the story of the gangsters Bonnie and Clyde. They were outlaws in the twentieth century. Bonnie had a tremendous impact on Clyde. Much of his endeavors were laced with the desire to please her. Why? Because Bonnie communicated to the fool that was in Clyde. They led a very scandalous life that ended by gunfire.

For scriptural references concerning this subject matter please see the following. Adam and Eve in Genesis 3 and 1 Timothy 2:14. Abraham and Sarai (Sarah) in Genesis 12:11-20. Ananias and Sapphira in Acts 5:1-10. The purpose of this entry is to ask a very probing question to the wives who are reading this. Are you conversing with the prince or the fool in your husband? The decision is yours.

by Anthony N. Wade

I was preparing a lesson concerning a man's interaction with his spouse. All of a sudden “The Holy Spirit” said to me,

“APOLOGIES WITHOUT CHANGE ARE EQUIVALENT TO A LIE.”

From that day, until this, when it is necessary to apologize, along with that apology I always endeavor to change my behavior. This is what I mean: It was the behavior that created the impasse in the first place. If I modify my actions, that makes the apology extremely powerful.