John was very caustic with Barb. They have been married for fifteen years, and Barb can only remember a few short years when his words were not unkind. She had contemplated divorce but couldn't justify it because of what she experienced as a child. Barb's father and mother divorced when she was a pre-teen. It wasn't a very good exit. Her parents fought over possessions as well as custody of the children. To be curt, it was very evil. She didn't want her three children to encounter what she had encountered. She figured that it was worth keeping the family together, yet she lived a life of being verbally abused. Verbal abuse, in my opinion is more hazardous than physical. Why do I take that position? Because with physical abuse, apart from being slain, the bruises have an opportunity to heal. With verbal abuse, there is a continual reminder of what the abuser thinks, and how they view you. Both physical and verbal abuse are horrendous. With verbal abuse there is a battery of blows delivered with the tongue. Physical abuse is inflicted by a fist, open hand, or an object, other than the tongue.

Barb was a God fearing woman who matured to the position that John was not going to get away with abusing her any longer. She began praying for him in a positive way. She learned to bind the spirit of anger that was tormenting John. She not only bound the spirit of anger, but she loosed the spirit of love between the two of them. (Matthew 16:19 Amplified Bible).

Barb took the upper hand in their marital status. She was very watchful not to do anything that would ignite John's anger. She became very prolific in living 2 Peter 3:1-6. She knew there was more to John, than his outbursts of anger. John was also raised in a God-fearing home. When he was able to leave his parents home, he departed from the faith. Barb prayed that her husband would rededicate his life to The Lord Jesus Christ. However, she was made aware of 1 Corinthians 7:14-15, which let her know that John was free to leave her if he wanted. She had an inward intuition that he would become a 2 Peter 3:7 man. She had in truth become a Proverbs 31 woman. She turned their household around with the weapon of her words. Her words were not complaints about how terrible her husband was, but she began to speak the desired results according to Romans 4:17. That verse encourages us to speak those things which be not as though they were. Barb not only prayed this way, but she made positive affirmations concerning their union.

That is what the Scriptures mean when they say that God made Abraham the father of many nations. God will accept all people in every nation who trust Him as Abraham did. This promise is from God himself, who makes the dead live again and speaks of future events with as much certainty as though they were already past. (Romans 4:17 TLB). Barb spoke the desired results based on the Word of God. She had the desired results before she got them. The desired results were hers in the spirit realm, before she experienced them in the physical. In other words, be there, before you get there. -AWM

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