A number of men fail to realize that a woman’s makeup is primarily emotional. She desires loving attention. The foundation of all emotional awareness is conversation. This is one of the major components of a successful marriage. Every woman has the need for verbal stimulation. Discourse can many times lead to intercourse, “no communication, no copulation.” Innumerable married women are starved emotionally, solely because their husbands will not converse with them. A lack of effective communication can, and will impair sexual relations. It can lead to an emotional affair. If a woman is not fed the verbal food necessary to sustain a vibrant, fulfilling and loving relationship with her husband, she will intuitively look for it in places that are extremely inferior to what rightfully belongs to her.

Some women have poured a huge portion of their emotions upon their children, only to find that their children have nothing to give them in that department. Actually the child is looking for emotional stability from their mother — but she is empty, void of the strength she should have to pour into her children. This particularly happens in a home where the parents argue in front of the children — or get a divorce. In view of the fact that the void that dad, and many times mom are experiencing, they transfer their painful emotions on to the child. Countless situations have resulted in emotional abuse — emotional rape. If we only knew the statistics of how many children have been emotionally violated by one of their parents, it would stagger our minds. God holds men responsible for what happens within the confines of their homes — be it positive or negative, they are the ones responsible.

Let’s not imitate Adam in this situation when he found fault with Eve for eating them out of house and home. No, Adam was right there and partook as well. He was not deceived — Adam knew exactly what he was doing.

It is our responsibility men, to verbally strengthen our wife. “REMEMBER” don’t talk at her, but openly converse with her. There is a vast difference between talking at your wife, and communicating with her. It is one of the basic fundamentals of a working relationship.

When a man has fully consecrated himself to the success of his marriage he will realize that it encompasses every aspect of who he is as a submissive husband. It includes:

1. The inflections of his voice.
2. The correct choice of words.
3. The emotions expressed during the exchange.
4. The precise stroke of the hands at the appropriate time and place.

Someone is thinking, that’s work. You are 100 % correct. Some men have become so relaxed with their spouse that they’ve begun to second guess them, that’s dangerous. A woman’s emotions have many, many, MANY, places of elevation. What turned her on last month, may not turn her on this month. Have you ever looked at your wife, and noticed that she was crying? You immediately ask her what’s wrong. She responds…, “I DON’T KNOW,” The Word of God tells us what to do.

1 Peter 3:7 (NLT)

{7} In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat her with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of New Life. If you don’t treat her as you should, your prayers will not be heard.

This verse sums it up. If a man would do this verse — I mean really do this verse, his wife would eventually respond to the method of love he is demonstrating. Some men have been so harsh, hard and indifferent towards their wife, that he has killed her ability to respond to him in a favorable manner. Various men drive their wives hard, and wonder why she won’t answer back in a positive way. She is tense, terse and tightens up — and they don’t have a clue.

I am convinced that some of these men are from the land of DUH! This happens to many women who desire to have a positive relationship with their husbands, but he has put to death the life that was in her. It is a part of her nature to respond to her husband in a complimentary fashion. When you place the supernatural with the natural, you’ve got a combination that cannot be beaten. Our marriages could and should be naturally, supernatural. -AWM

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